With a notepad and pen look in the mirror and write down everything that you see and say to yourself when you look in the mirror.
- How do you describe yourself?
- How do you describe your appearance?
- How do you describe the person you see?
It is likely that you will notice there will be a lot of derogatory and negative comments.
Read the list aloud and imagine that you are saying this to a stranger and then to a friend. Or get someone else to describe you using the words you have written.
Would that feel uncomfortable? Notice how saying the things you are saying about yourself to a friend or stranger (or having them read back to you) would be unacceptable, inappropriate and unkind.
If it is unacceptable, inappropriate and unkind to insult a friend or stranger, then how can it be acceptable and appropriate to speak to yourself like that? Knowing it is highly unlikely that you are a nasty or rude purposefully, accept it is not in your nature to insult anyone, not even yourself.
Next, consider someone who loves you or loved you unconditionally, this could be a partner, parent, child, grandparent or even a pet.
Close your eyes and imagine yourself floating into the body of the person or pet who loves or has loved you unconditionally. See yourself through their eyes, see all the qualities they see when they look at you. When you can really feel warmth and unconditional love when seeing yourself through the eyes of a loved one, slowly open your eyes, smile and see yourself for the first time with the love and respect you have earned and deserve.