If you aren’t a fan of day time TV then there is a good chance that you will have never heard of Nik and Eva Speakman.
Nik and Eva Speakman are “the world’s leading, inspiring, life changing therapists” who use a behaviouristic approach to therapy. By studying the work of eminent psychologists such as John Watson, BF Skinner and Carl Rogers they have created their own ‘Schema conditioning psychotherapy’ focusing on the causes and not the symptoms. This pioneering approach breaks from traditional methods of psychological therapy. They have treated people around the world with issues and anxiety disorders ranging from OCD, addictions, fears, phobias, bipolar, PTSD, eating disorders and self-harm issues; to conditions only seen as being manageable (not curable) such as misophonia, trichotillomania and anorexia. Many of these issues were able to be resolved using traditional mental health treatments.
I had seen them before on ITV This Morning but during my darkest days of January 2015, Nik and Eva touched my life and helped lay the foundations to the new me!
Monday 12th January 2015 was the start of Happiness Week on This Morning presented by Phillip Schofield and Christine Bleakley (while Holly Willoughby was on maternity leave). This Morning had become part of my daily routine while I was at home on ‘voice rest’ and struggling with depression and anxiety. It was a reason to get out of bed each morning.
Over the week, Phillip and Christine chatted with Nik and Eva to share their thoughts and ideas about happiness. Each day they were going to focus different components of happiness and ways to be happy. With an element of cynicism and self doubt I watched on with the belief that nothing would work to lift me from such a dark place.
What is happiness and what does it mean? Most of us know (or think we know) what would make us happy but never find or invest the time to do it. Watch the interview and try out the ‘gratitude experiment’ from the link in the title above.
It was day 2 that had the most impact on me personally. “We are not born with low self esteem” so where does it come from? Nik and Eva conduct the Mirror Experiment with three ladies. It was so moving and I can’t suggest enough that everyone gives this a go. They also speak to the amazing and talented Jodi Ann Bickley, the founder of One Million Lovely Letters. Jodi inspired me to send letters to a few of my friends and this is something I hope to do more of in the future because the benefit of doing so was huge to me, let alone to the friends who received them.
How do family and friends influence your life? We become like the people we spend most time with.
A cluttered home is often the sign of a cluttered mind. On today’s show, Nik and Eva help a lady declutter her home and give tips on how to happy up your home by:
- A good news bell – ring the bell when someone has some good news to share
- A WOW list – a mood board or list of all the things that are ‘wow’ in your life. Read it when you wake up in the morning and when you go to bed at night.
- Jar of happiness – as a family (or as an individual) write on pieces of paper all the good, positive things that happen during the day then on a set day (monthly / annually) read back through what has been written.
So without even meeting Nik and Eva, they had a huge impact on me and I hope you will find them as inspiring. Most recently, Nik and Eva have been back on This Morning helping former Transport Police Officer Paul Curran after his life was left in tatters by PTSD after witnessing firsthand the horrors of the London bombings on 7/7. Watch their moving story here.
Find more from Nik and Eva through their website www.speakman.tv
I was fortunate to be able to see Nik and Eva on their ‘How To Be Happy: Everyone Deserves to be Happy’ tour in April 2016. If you missed the opportunity to see them this time round I can’t recommend enough going to see them when they tour again. It was certainly a fun, positive and informative evening. Highlights of the show included an audience member being released from their fear of spiders (and for the show in Manchester, the lady chosen had been on the prossecco before the show which I’m sure made Nik & Eva’s job much harder but the audience were certainly happy as we went into the interval)! To see the mirror technique (shown in the day 1 link above) live was very moving but heartwarming to watch, seeing the transformation in someone before your eyes. I certainly left the theatre feeling inspired, positive and grateful with a smile on my face.
Please share your thoughts and stories about how The Speakmans have inspired or helped you.